This is YOUR Boudoir Shoot. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | Top Rated Boudoir Photography in Phoenix, Scottsdale, Gilbert, Arizona

When it comes to having self confidence, you are equally as capable as the woman standing next to you.

Can I look that confident in my own boudoir photos? Is my body good enough to be photographed like that? Will people think I’ll look silly? These pictures all look so beautiful, but if I do this and see my own photos will I hate them?

You are not the first person to ask these questions. We are human and you are getting ready to do something that is probably not within your normal comfort one. But I want to caution you from being consumed by them.

If the ultimate goal is to learn to love yourself more and feel empowered to be more comfortable in your own skin - comparing yourself to others is a slippery slope.

When it comes to having self confidence, you are equally as capable as the woman standing next to you.

But I realize its not that simple.

Comparing is a common habit and while their are SOME positive things that can come from comparison, there is often more to lose than to gain from doing so. Why? You will never get anywhere by comparing your biggest insecurities to someone else’s greatest successes. And — there is never going to come a time where there isn’t at least someone doing “it” better than you. Above all- you are entirely too unique to ever be compared fairly.

If nothing else, comparing yourself to others will only deprive you of your own self love and deprive you of experiencing your own joy when you DO succeed.

This is YOUR boudoir shoot and no one is going to do it like you do! And while most of us have similar insecurities we all overcome them in our own way on our own time-line.

If you are having these questions as you are deciding whether or not to do a shoot and find yourself consumed by comparisons here is what you can do instead:

1. Set your intention.
   Why do you want to do a shoot like this? Remind yourself that becoming more comfortable in your own skin doesn’t mean you have to change it to be more like someone else. Figure out who YOU are, what makes YOU feel good and do more of that.

1. If you do look towards examples for inspiration…
   choose images of women who have a similar body type to yours. This will reduce distractions that trigger negative thoughts. Things like “That would never work for me because my boobs aren’t that big, or my waist isn’t that tiny” can limit your ability to see yourself experiencing the same joy. Seeing someone who has a similar body type to you can give you more realistic expectations and show you the beauty that is uniquely possible for you.

2. If you see someone or something that you admire don’t assume she has it better just because she IS better.

   We are all the same kind of different and there is no magic button for anyone. Shift your focus onto what they did to get where they are and introduce some of those concepts into your own self love journey. What I mean by that is, you can pull inspiration from others without overanalyzing whether or not you measure up to them. Instead of saying “That girl looks incredible - I could never look that good” recognize that she didn’t become that confident overnight. Chances are she too took active steps to get there. Let her success drive you but don’t let your like-ness or differences it be a qualifier of whether or not you get to have this too.

Listen in …

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How Showing Up as Your Alter Ego Can Boost Your Confidence | Boudoir Photography Gilbert, Mesa, Phoenix

These days women are becoming more and more empowered to go after what they desire with even more confidence.

Boudoir photography Confidence Hack. The Bella Jade Collection serves up confidence in the form of tastefully sexy photos for women in Phoenix Scottsdale Mesa Chandler Gilbert Arizona. What to wear for your boudoir session if you are feeling a little nervous? Christina says try on your alter ego.

With the body positive movement at the forefront of social media, women are feeling less ashamed of themselves and more likely to

show up, be present, go after what they desire with more confidence and conviction.

They’re becoming fearless in the face of adversity.

Or so the story goes…

However, like any great movement there’s likely to be a a few great people feeling left behind. And those people may be going down a slippery slope of self sabotaging beliefs.

Do you have to be 100% fearless, embrace every single flaw, and love every piece of you every single day no matter what happens? No, you don’t.

And to be honest, I’m not entirely convinced that its even feasible.

Having doubts, bad days, or wishing away a body flaw or two, should not exclude you from celebrating yourself, showing up, practicing self love, and going after what you desire.

If you are in a place right now where you’re not quite feeling the body love and are totally freaking out over this idea of showing up ALL IN as the body positive woman for your boudoir session….

here’s a confidence hack to consider:

Show up as your alter ego.

I’m not saying be someone else. That would entirely contradict everything I believe in and what I want for you and your boudoir experience. I am saying - give your everyday self a much needed break and tap into your second identity.

When we have conversations with ourselves, we see ourselves in two different ways:

1. The everyday right now you.

2. And the better version you envision or dream you will become.

Number #2 is your alter ego.

Putting on your alter ego can help you feel more confident during your session because:

It allows you to be relieved of shame, guilt, and negative self talk so that you can redirect your mindset and focus on what you love about yourself.

And, it transforms you into your heroic self. The self that can help you see your full potential.

Now go ahead, babe. TRY-IT-ON.

“Make it happen. Shock everyone ”

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